2012年12月27日星期四

Dating Chat Tips

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due to the integration of communications technology into daily life. Users can connect with people from all over the world via the Internet. Some users utilize chat rooms, which are online rooms where people can find other people with similar interests to chat with. If you looking to chat with possible romantic interests, there are a few tips to keep in mind.

Getting Started
  • Locate a select a chat room based on your interests. Rather than simply conducting an Internet search for "online chat rooms," conduct one for chat rooms specific to your interests. A general chat room search will most likely return the most popular and cluttered singles chat rooms, whereas a detailed search will return chat rooms with users who have interests similar to yours. Try to find a chat room of your favorite movies, authors, sports teams, hobbies or religious beliefs. You can often access chat rooms through official fan websites and message boards, too. Keep in mind that everybody in a chat room may not be looking for dating. They could, in fact, be married or in a relationship and just enjoy chatting with strangers.

Dating Strategy

  • Be honest with other people if you wish for them to be honest with you. Represent yourself truthfully. Also, remember that you are talking to strangers on the Internet. You have no idea what they look like or how they really act. Building mental images may only lead to disappointment if you ever meet in real life, for people rarely live up to mental images. Do not upload fake photos of yourself. That is, do not send photos of other people as yourself, and do not send photos that greatly distort your appearance. Flattering photos are fine but misleading ones are not. According to the Online Dating Magazine, misleading photos are probably the No. 1 cause of disappointments in Internet relationships.
    If you hit it off with someone in a chat room, set up other online dates, such as playing online games. Become comfortable with one another and talk about how long you expect to communicate before you meet, if at all. When you do meet in person, meet in a public, neutral place where you both can feel comfortable, such as a café, coffee shop or park.

Online Safety

  • When communicating online, although it may be exciting talking to people from all over the world, keep in mind that you are talking to strangers. Adhere to Internet safety techniques when chatting. Guard your identity, do not feel pressured to share information, never send money to anyone and do not disclose personal information such as bank account numbers and credit card numbers to anyone. Build a system of trust with your online dating partner by requesting a series of photos from his life. If she only sends you photos that appear to be model photos from the Internet, this could be a dishonesty cue. Also, be aware of inconsistencies in life stories, and do not fall for false emotions, such as proclaimed love at first link.

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2012年12月24日星期一

Online Dating and Initial Contact Tips

require some extra introductory steps before couples get to meet on first dates. Trading emails, information and photos builds a comfort level between singles to ensure they are compatible before they hook up for face-to-face introductions. Safety, sensitivity and timing top the list of online dating and initial contact tips. With millions of singles looking for soul mates, getting swept away with the love bug requires some basic strategies and techniques.

Service

  • Select a reputable dating service. Conduct your own online search of public feedback directed toward the services that interest you. Review those agencies' policies toward sharing your confidential information. Some groups allow all your information to be visible to other singles or third parties, so check their online privacy statements. Work with a service that maintains a database with millions of other singles instead of just a couple of hundred prospective matches.

Profile

  • Write an original description that sets you apart. Avoid expressions you have heard before. Stand out from the crowd instead of blending in with millions of others searching for love. Steer clear of long lists of hobbies, jobs or favorite artists. Your efforts to sound like someone with varied interests could backfire and unintentionally label you as boring, says author Katherine Dykstra in her online article, 10 Smart Profile Fixes, published on Match.com. Steer clear of ranting against your job, ex-mate or single status in your profile.

Flirt

  • Winking, teasing and smiling add up to flirting. Some singles struggle to send out those same vibes over the Internet. Insert humor and sincerity into your emails. Ask fun questions, such as how your match got his beautiful smile, what is his favorite ice cream flavor or where his posted picture was taken.

Timing

  • Play the numbers games during this introductory email phase. Restrict yourself to chatting with no more than six prospective matches at a time. Post two headshots and three body shots of yourself because anything less signals that you are hiding something. Swap at least five emails before you offer any personal details about yourself or speak via telephone. Three weeks represents the maximum amount of time to wait to meet someone in person if you live in the same town, but the bottom line is to not meet anyone until you feel comfortable.

Safety

  • Guard your personal information until you grow comfortable with someone. This includes your home and work addresses and telephone numbers. Some dating services instruct you to communicate with matches through their service's forums. If a match offers her personal email, explain that you prefer connecting through the service until you learn more about each other. Contact the online dating service if anyone sends offensive messages or requests money

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2012年12月19日星期三

How to Deal With A Broken Heart (For Men)

Many men find that dealing with a broken heart can be just as unbearable as any form of physical pain. Some men who overcome heartbreak will often improve and grow stronger as new relationships form, while others may create an unhealthy obsession with the person who gave them the heartbreak. With the right information you will be able to learn what actions should be taken to efficiently heal from a heartbreak.

  • 1
    Vent your emotions. Many men will repress their emotions if they are not comfortable crying at the risk of being seen as weak or less masculine. Repressed emotions may keep you in a state of sadness for an even further period of time. Take some time alone to release any emotions you may be feeling from the heartbreak.


  • 2
    Find a way to express how you feel. There are many ways that you can express your feelings, which can help relieve the heartbreak. Some ways include writing in a journal, writing poems, playing a music instrument, drawing art or kickboxing.
  • 3
    Find support in your family and friends. Let them know how you feel and ask them for advice and guidance on how to deal with the heartbreak. Only talk to friends who care and have been known to show support in previous situations.
  • 4
    Take sometime to enjoy your life. Rather than obsessing over how you felt before the heartbreak, make it a goal to find other ways that can help refill joy in your life. Watching a movie, eating at a fine restaurant or meeting up with friends can help you refocus on the positive things going on in your life.
  • 5
    Learn from the heartbreak. Find out what was the cause of the heartbreak and what you could have done differently to help prevent another heartbreak from happening. Becoming aware of the mistakes that were made will make you alert of them in your future relationships.
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  • 2012年12月18日星期二

    How to Ask a Girl to Be Your Girlfriend

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    It was easy back in elementary school. All you needed was a note which read "Do you want to be my girlfriend? Check yes or no," and a friend to pass it to the girl of your choosing. There is a little more to it now that you are all grown up. However you don't need to be a love expert to know how to ask a girl to be your girlfriend. You just need a little planning, some confidence and the right girl.



  • Figure out if she likes you. There are several signs to tell if a girl likes you. See if any of the following apply to you.
    * She makes plans to do things with you months in advance. For example, you see a trailer for a movie coming out this summer and she says, "We should go see that when it comes out."
    *She sits close to you and often touches your hand or arm as she talks to you.
    *She gives you frequent eye contact.
    *She has introduced you to her friends and family. Most girls won't bother doing this if they don't think you are going to be around long.
    These signs are not foolproof. There is always a risk in asking a girl to be your girlfriend that she will not feel the same way. However, if you never take risks, you will miss out on the best things in life.




  • 2
    Get in good with her friends. Many girls look to their friends for approval of the boys they date. Get them on your side and half the battle is won. To be honest, the easiest way to get on their good side is just to treat her really well. Her friends love her and want her to be with someone who recognizes how great she is.
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  • 3
    Practice what you are going to say. You don't have to be super poetic or Mr. suave to ask a girl to be your girlfriend. You just need to be sincere. A simple "I have a lot of fun with you and I would be honored to call you my girlfriend," works great. The exact wording isn't important, but you will want to come up with a general idea so that you don't freeze up when the moment comes.



  • 4
    Look your best. You don't need to rent a tux, but take time to shave, put on cologne, pop a few breath mints, etc. Remember, you are trying to convince her to forsake all other men for you. You may as well make it worth her while.
  • 5
    Find a romantic spot. This isn't a conversation that you want to have during halftime or during dinner at Applebees. Instead, find a nice spot at the beach, in the mountains, at a park, etc. where the two of you can be alone and the scenery can set the mood.
  • 6
    Be confident. Girls love boys who are confident (without being cocky). Don't say, "You probably don't want to, but I was wondering if you want to be my girlfriend." Instead, ask her the question in a straightforward manner that assumes that her answer will be yes.
  • 7
    Don't stress out about it! Whatever happens, you will be OK. If she says yes, then great! If not, I promise that you will live to love another day. She may not fully appreciate the wonderfulness that is you, but I promise that someone else out there will. You just need to keep looking.


  • 2012年12月16日星期日

    Internet Dating Facts

    A new era of dating has commenced. No longer do you need to dress up and drive to a club or bar to hook up. Now you can click through web profiles, complete with photographs and biographies, in the comfort of your home to find your ideal mate. Providing more choices and creating less hassle, Internet dating has become extremely popular.

    Demographics

    • According to the Wall Street Journal, the male-to-female ratio is fairly equal on many popular Internet dating sites: the ratio of males to females is 46:54 on eHarmony and 52:48 on Match.com. A 2009 study in the journal “CyberPsychology and Behavior” has also found that more sociable people--especially those who possess high self-esteem and value romantic relationships---have a greater likelihood of being Internet daters than less sociable people who value romantic relationships.

    Benefits

    • Internet dating has been shown to have a relatively high success rate. A research group called the Pew Internet & American Life Project found that in 2005, three million Americans had entered into marriages or long-term relationships with people they had met online, though many individual Internet dating sites claim even higher figures. EHarmony asserts in television and online advertisements that 2 percent of Americans who got married in 2008 met through its site.
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    Warning

    • According to The National Newspaper, very few Internet networking sites run background checks, and anyone can register as a member. In February 2009, MySpace was forced to cancel 90,000 accounts on its site linked to registered sex offenders. The Safer Online Dating Alliance warns women never to post photos of their children or describe them in great detail because they might inadvertently attract pedophiles.

    Future Trends

    • Popular in several countries around the world, the Internet dating industry is expected to experience tremendous growth in upcoming years. According to Forrester Research Inc., the Internet dating industry, with a gross income of $957 million, ranked third place in 2008 for largest revenue producer out of all paid content sites, behind video games and digital music. Revenues are predicted to rise 10 percent by 2013.

    Top Sites

    • Forbes came up with a top-ten list of Internet dating websites based on number of unique visitors tracked during the month of June 2009. EHarmony came in first, with 4.25 million visitors, followed by Yahoo Personals. Match.com was third, followed by True and SinglesNet. Sixth place was Plenty of Fish, a popular free online dating site, followed by Do U Like and Spark Networks. Ninth and tenth place, respectively, were Mate1 and AOL Personals.
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    2012年12月11日星期二

    How to Start Dating Again



    One of the hardest things to deal with after a break-up is figuring out how to start over. Trying to determine how long to wait and how to re-enter the dating world can be difficult. It is important to give oneself enough time to heal but also to try new relationships. Here are some suggestions for starting to date again.

  • 1
    Take it slow. Even if you are the one who initiated the recent break-up and feel that it was the right thing to do, your emotions may be sensitive and trusting or opening up to new people could be difficult. Give yourself a little time after the break-up to collect yourself and be okay with being single again.
  • 2
    Leave the past where it is. It is unfair to you and to anyone you choose to start dating to let your past relationships affect your current one. Understand that you cannot change what has happened and hanging on to negative memories of the past is not healthy. In order to successfully start dating again, you must be willing to let go of any anger or guilt about past relationships and look towards the future.
  • 3
    Try something new. If you have a habit of dating people who look similar or treat you a certain way, reintroducing yourself to the dating world can be a great opportunity to try dating someone different. Be open to dating someone who isn't necessarily your usual "type." It is a great way to meet people and discover new traits in your own personality.
  • 4
    Go public. A great way to start meeting new people again without putting a lot of pressure on yourself is to simply get out into the public and mingle with other single people. Visit your favorite bar or club for a drink or to hear a band or consider going to a "singles" event that introduces you to other single people without forcing you to engage in a one-on-one date.
  • 5
    Know what you want. If you feel that you are ready to start dating again, consider what qualities and priorities you are looking for in another person. You owe it to yourself to know what you want and require in a relationship, and being aware of these needs will make your dating decisions more informed.
  • 6
    Be yourself. Take stock of all your positive attributes and be proud of all the good things you have to offer another person, but don't be someone you're not. Be honest about who you are and what you want out of a relationship. If you were hurt in a past relationship be straightforward about it, but don't dwell on it. Being honest and upfront about yourself will make the dating process more relaxed for everyone.

  • 2012年12月5日星期三

    We're a match made in heaven !


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    2012年12月2日星期日

    15 Ways To Know If A Girl Loves You Truly Before She Spoils Your Life


    Boys feel perplexed when they are asked to judge a girl. They find it extremely difficult to know whether a girl is into him seriously or she is just playing with them. This is the matter of extreme worry if the boy seriously and madly loves that particular girl.
    Here in this article I reveal you 15 ways to know and judge a girl before she ruins your life and play with your feelings. People generally feel girls are very sensitive and boys are the tough going guys. Yes, it's true that boys are tough and strong guys but when it comes to love, they are the most sensitive about their lover.
    A girl's behavior and her attitude towards you, reveals the way she feels about you. It also depicts whether she is interested in you or she is just playing with you. Sometimes what happens is, the girl loves you but she cannot express her feelings. This article also helps you to find out the hidden feelings in girl's heart.
    If you get the positive answer out of this, it is highly advisable to be loyal to the girl who loves you truly and selflessly but if you find the negative outcome, then I would strongly advise you dump that girl before she spoils you completely.
    Here are the 15 ways to judge a girl:
    1. Ask her what does she look for into a boy? Is it money, looks, power, status or nature?
    Outcome: Her answer will reveal a lot about her nature and thinking. It depicts whether she gives importance to love, looks, character, money or power.
    2. Ask her if she likes you?
    Outcome: If she says yes casually, then she does not love you rather if she finds it difficult to answer this, then she love you.
    3. Ask her what does she respect you for? What does she like about you?
    Outcome: If she lists out the things clearly about you, then she really love you. If she takes time to think and say about you, then she's bluffing you.
    4. Ask her what does she feel about you?
    Outcome: If she is clear what actually she feels about you then you can move ahead with this girl because she is in love with you, if not then leave the topic her itself.
    5. Tell her that you will invite her in your marriage, ask her if she would come?
    Outcome: If she says no or keep numb, then she is in love with you but if she says yes, 'I would attend your marriage', that means she is not serious about you.
    6. Ask her if you can come to her home or at least ask her to introduce you to her parents.
    Outcome: If she agrees to introduce you to her parents, then she is serious about you and believes that may be you want to talk to her parents for marriage. If not then it means that she doesn't want you to meet her parents.
    7. Talk to her on several topics in a single day. The next day you meet, ask her about something that you have discussed yesterday.
    Outcome: If she remembers all or at least a part of what you said yesterday, then she is interested in you.
    8. Send her messages regularly for 15 days or call her daily with out missing out a single day. On the 16th day, don't give her message or don't call her.
    Outcome: If she is in love with you and is serious about you, then she would surely ask you the reason for not sending her message. If she doesn't even remember that you did not send her the message, then she is not at all bothered about you.
    9. Take her frequently for a cup of coffee. Observe her behavior when it comes to paying the bill.
    Outcome: If she feels a little embarrassed or uncomfortable that every time you are paying the bill, then she cares for you because she does not like your spending of money needlessly. If she does not feel anything about your paying off the bill, then she does not love about you.
    10. Take her for some shopping. Ask her to accompany you in your shopping. Select a beautiful branded shirt for yourself but pretend as if you are not buying the shirt because it's much expensive than your budget.
    Outcome: Now, if her love is true for you and she is serious about you, then she would try her level best to gift that to you. That reveals her selfless and in depth love for you.
    11. Find out whether she remembers your birthday, wishes you on every possible occasion,

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    2012年11月29日星期四

    3 tips to win a positive first impression


    Professional workers and businessmen/women usually have a busy time schedule. Sometimes they may not have time to read through so many details, but your decent, charming and bright photos can significantly grasp a positive first impression which is really better than saying thousands of words.
    The following 3 simple tips for your profile pictures can intensively catch millions of attention:
    1. Highly recommanded to take some gorgeous yet natural photos from professional photographers as your profile pictures as well besides the daily life photos. Professional photographers know how to take beautiful photos since they have good cameras, experience, knowledge and venues. It will definately look better and more respectful than those taken from bathroom mirrors.
    2. It is suggested to be natural rather than wearing too much make up and over trendy fashion in photos because generally potential prince charming will feel more comfortable with natural appearance.
    3. A confident, sincere smile with lovely eye contact can draw a great attention. It will also make others feel more approachable, friendly and warm.




    2012年11月28日星期三

    3 kinds of false friends you must fire from your life

    I often read blog posts, here at Forbes and on other platforms, that spark further thought. I just read one at Inc.com, by Jeff Haden, about the types of people you should remove from your inner circle if you’re a business owner.











    It got me reflecting on the folks I’ve removed from my life over the years (not removed in the Mafioso sense – I mean ‘stopped interacting with’), or those I’ve encouraged others to remove. It might sound callous or draconian, but I’m convinced that life is too short to have people around you on a daily basis who make it more difficult to succeed or to be happy.





    Now of course, we all have days when even the folks we’re fondest of – friends, colleagues, family – make us want to tear our hair out. That’s not what I ‘m talking about (that’s life on the planet). I’m talking about those folks who consistently make your life harder or less pleasant.





    So, here’s my observation of the three types of people to invite out of your life:





    Energy

    vampires
    . Some people just wear you out; you feel more tired and stressed, less vital after interacting with them. These folks seem to believe that the main job of their friends and colleagues is to help them feel better. I once had a friend who required hours and hours of “processing” – his pain, difficulty, emotional upheaval, the unfairness of his past life: everything needed to be gone over ad infinitim. Sadly, no matter how deeply you listen, no matter how much counsel you offer, no matter how much you put your own needs on the back burner to support these folks, it will not be enough. Think about the friends and colleagues who consistently take more from you than they give back, and ask yourself why you’re still offering yourself to be sucked dry.











    I Me Mine: My brother used to be married to someone who expected much more from others, on a daily basis, than she was willing to give. For instance, she had no problem asking someone to babysit for her child, or watch her house, or run an errand for her…but when it came time to reciprocate, somehow it just never seemed possible. When she came to visit, everything had to be oriented to accommodate her: the foods she required, the quietest room with the proper light, the cats farmed out to friends because of her allergies. No such accommodations were possible when others visited her. “I Me Mine” people are the center of their own universe, and if they’re in your life, you are always going to have to work around their needs and preferences. Collaboration, reciprocity and give and take are not part of their vocabulary. Do what you can to minimize your interactions with these folks (although they may let you know in no uncertain terms that you’re being unreasonable or unfair not to be available to fulfill their every whim).











    Liars. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. Fool me three times – why are you still on the list of people whose calls I return? If someone is consistently unreliable, or tells you things that aren’t true, or says one thing to you and another thing to someone else in order to protect themselves….cut them loose. Liars are the worst. Energy Vampires and I Me Mines are a pain and make your life more difficult – but Liars can create honest-to-goodness legal and moral problems.











    The great thing to realize is that you actually have the power to do this. You don’t need have to these people in your life. You can kindly but firmly minimize your interactions with them. And that frees you up to invite wonderful people into your life.






    2012年11月27日星期二

    How To Marry A Millionaire

    By Elite Connections dating expert and CEO Sherri Murphy
    My mother always said it’s just as easy to love a rich man as a poor man. But in many women’s eyes it’s easier. If you are looking for ways to meet the millionaire of your dreams. I've been a millionaire matchmaker for 18 years, found a fabulous husband for myself and many of my clients. 

    #1 Get an education. The affluent value a good education and if you want to make a man fall in love with you, be able to talk about current events and the arts. It's not all about looks. Haven't you ever seen a woman with a great guy and thought, how in the world did she get him? Now you know!

    #2 While you're in school take some classes on business. Pay attention and learn how to run a company. The successful are very interested in money obviously, that's why they have it. If you can discuss business and finances, you can peak his interest. It's never to late to go back to school!

    #3 Take an interest in politics because that’s where the money is. Volunteer to help with the next future president or senator. Volunteer to help at a fundraiser. It's fun to work at the silent auction table or check people in. Besides being nice and donating your time you might even meet a fabulous successful single man on this venture.

    #4 Be prepared!  You never know if today is the day you’ll walk out and meet Prince Charming. Go to a good salon for a great hair cut and color. Get regular facials, and always have a great manicure and pedicure. Work out daily and if you need to lose weight do it. Stay slim to attract his attention. Look your best everyday!

    #5 Dress to impress. Shop wisely and don’t dress sleazy. There's a way to dress sexy but classy and that’s want you want to achieve. Hire a wardrobe consultant if you have to. But get rid of any trashy clothes. Millionaires are not usually going to marry a woman that looks like a club dancer!
    #6 You’ve got to go and be where the single millionaire men are. Go to lunch, dinner and fundraisers at places that have the types of men you want to meet. If you live in a crappy area, find a roommate and move to the good side of town.
    #7 Last but not least, sign up with a reputable matchmaking agency. And if you do take this step listen to what your matchmaker tells you to do. Meet the men she picks out for you. And if you meet a successful man that likes you, give him a chance. Unless you’ve dated many single millionaire men he might seem odd to you. He could be more confident, busy at work and might not call you as much as you're used to. Get to know him, make a friend and show him what a great girl you are. And above all else do not sleep with him before you get to know him very well!  If you do join our service, at Elite Connections dating is much easier. So take your matchmakers advice and you'll date successful single men and one that you will fall in love with.

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    7 Winning Profile Tips for getting more attention

    Here are 7 quick tips for getting more attention from your online dating profile. Your mailbox will fill up faster and your chances of finding a connection will jump sky-high.
    1. Write a unique and friendly introductory line: "Looking for hiking partner" or "Seeking a shipmate for sailing and more"
    2. Post at least two current photos: Photos significantly increase responses! Try at least one close-up and one full-body shot for the best results.
    3. Use a positive tone: "I love to learn and meet new people." "Life is an adventure and I would like to share it with someone special."
    4. Keep it simple: Keep your descriptions light and avoid demanding checklists. Try listing only three things you desire in a mate.
    5. Write a short essay, not a book: Four or five sentences is a good goal. Save the details for your dates.
    6. Include a fun hobby note: "I need someone to distract me from the piano." "I love to travel and tend to take too many photographs."
    7. Add your marketing pitch: What makes you unique? Try listing only three things and make them catchy (everyone is smart, outgoing and fun -- how are you different?).

    2012年11月26日星期一

    Dating Online,3 important tips for an impressive profile


    If I can humbly impart any useful advice to the wonderful women and men on this site that will enhance their success rate of actually receiving positive contacts it would be this - in spite of the catch phrase "keep it simple stupid", what works here (since your words are your representative manifesto) is to be detailed (without being redundant), complete (without being overly wordy), funny (without being childish), and emotionally revealing (without being too sappy). Nothing peaks someone's interest (and shows the kind of intention you bring) like a well-thought out and written description of yourself.
    Check your spelling! It is quite annoying to those who have spent years achieving advanced education to confront often simple errors - it shows lack of seriousness, for it should mean enough to you to at least spell check and proof read your own work (see what I mean?!).
    Finally, neither include photos that require magnifying glasses nor only ones where you are completely hidden behind sunglasses, hats, or other folks. This is show business - not hide business! Flaunt your stuff . . .proudly. The ones who are really interested will definitely contact you - and aren't those the people you'd rather connect with anyway?
    I wish all of us buona fortuna in finding new friends, lovers, and hopefully perfect mates!

    2012年11月25日星期日

    Tips For Date A Single Mom


                              
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    A friend of mine is a single mother to an adorable 3 year old boy. She had been dating a guy – let’s call him Jim – for about a month and he hadn’t met her son yet. To prove that he was completely cool with her having a kid, Jim shows up one Saturday afternoon, completely unannounced, with a huge teddy bear for the confused toddler. This adorable little boy looked up at his mother and said, “Mommy… Who is this?” To which my friend responded, “Baby, this is Mommy’s friend Jim. And he was just leaving.”
    Now I’m sure that he is a really nice guy. He just doesn’t understand the ins and outs of dating a woman with a child. So to all of the Jim’s out there, here is some advice:
    1) You do not decide when it’s time to meet the kids. Single mothers protect their children from guys they just started dating and you should respect that. If your relationship fizzles out a month from now, no mother wants their child saying, “Mommy, where’s your friend Jim? I miss him.” A mom won’t introduce you to her child until she’s certain it will last a while.
    2) Respect the rules. All moms have rules, for their children and their boyfriends. Even after a man has met your child, there are lots of rules. My number one rule as a single mother: No sleeping over! Even when my daughter was too young to realize what was going on, no sleeping over. A man who whines about these rules will be shown the door, permanently.
    3) Don’t bring a gift every time you come over. This may seem like an odd request, but how many teddy bears do you think a child needs? And you are not Santa! My child should not associate your arrival with presents.
    4) Understand, you are not the most important part of your girlfriend’s life. She has prior commitments. No matter how great the relationship is going, you can’t monopolize all of your momma’s time. She has things to take care of. (By things, I mean the beautiful child that she loves more than you. Yes… she loves her baby more than you! Deal with it!)
    5) Kill the P.D.A. You might think it’s sweet and flirtatious. Moms think it’s completely inappropriate, especially if their children might see you. A hug good bye is fine. Any more than that, she might slap your hands like you’re a toddler. And you’ll deserve it.
    6) Grow up, just a little. We realize you’re still single and having fun. That’s great! But most ladies don’t want a phone call at 3:00am when you’re leaving the bar. The kids went to bed seven hours ago and she’s been asleep since 11pm. Glad you’re having a great night. Tell her about it tomorrow.
    7) Respect the Ex. In a perfect break-up, no one ever sees their ex again. When you have children, you see your ex once or twice a week. No matter how much a new boyfriend hates the baby’s daddy, Shut up Jim! This is the father of her child. If you want to have a future with her, you’re going to have to learn to deal with him.
    8 ) Have fun! You’re in a great place. You get to be the silly, fun and entertaining one. You don’t have to discipline or change any diapers or argue over nap time. Enjoy it! Because kids are wildly entertaining and will play any game you can make up. A couple hours of hide and seek, and they’ll love you more than a million teddy bears.
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